I think the issues are more complex. We had a friend whose husband cheated on her, and spent the next 20 years talking about the father and the girlfriend. Had she forgiven him, it would have helped her to get on with her life.
That said, I had a friend who was the victim of terrible abuse in a foster hom and sadly nothing was done. She found out the foster parent had died, and his wife was ushering her a heart-felt service and my friend burst in to talk about that abuse. The wife was furious and said get out but my friend said no, I am going to tell everyone what he did so people can remember. There was screaming, police were called, but my friend said she felt true finish and Teshuvah can mean making things right.
I think the issues are more complex. We had a friend whose husband cheated on her, and spent the next 20 years talking about the father and the girlfriend. Had she forgiven him, it would have helped her to get on with her life.
That said, I had a friend who was the victim of terrible abuse in a foster hom and sadly nothing was done. She found out the foster parent had died, and his wife was ushering her a heart-felt service and my friend burst in to talk about that abuse. The wife was furious and said get out but my friend said no, I am going to tell everyone what he did so people can remember. There was screaming, police were called, but my friend said she felt true finish and Teshuvah can mean making things right.