I came across this article, and while it's old, there was just a point I want to clarify. "the idea that wives are expected to take on 100% of the domestic labor, hosting endless meals and guests, even teaching and offering pastoral support––for no money and little recognition. " is not accurate. I'm an orthodox Jewish woman and my husband has shown me sources about gedolim who cleaned up for shabbos and helped with domestic work and in chosson classes, orthodox men are taught that everything must be in balance, and so you cannot go on and learn all day if you're wife is breaking down while taking care of the kids and house. As such, my husband and many others are helping with many household or childcare duties and/or we hire help if it's needed. Also, any man who offers to host without consideration of his wife's feelings would be breaking halacha. And so any woman who does ALL the domestic work including cooking, cleaning, childrearing and more and is constantly hosting is either doing so of her own volition OR it's being done not as a representation of what Torah actually outlines for Jewish homes.
I came across this article, and while it's old, there was just a point I want to clarify. "the idea that wives are expected to take on 100% of the domestic labor, hosting endless meals and guests, even teaching and offering pastoral support––for no money and little recognition. " is not accurate. I'm an orthodox Jewish woman and my husband has shown me sources about gedolim who cleaned up for shabbos and helped with domestic work and in chosson classes, orthodox men are taught that everything must be in balance, and so you cannot go on and learn all day if you're wife is breaking down while taking care of the kids and house. As such, my husband and many others are helping with many household or childcare duties and/or we hire help if it's needed. Also, any man who offers to host without consideration of his wife's feelings would be breaking halacha. And so any woman who does ALL the domestic work including cooking, cleaning, childrearing and more and is constantly hosting is either doing so of her own volition OR it's being done not as a representation of what Torah actually outlines for Jewish homes.
much love
Ora Drexler