I do disagree with you about one thing. When you say, "Bisexual invisibility is a very tricky issue, because it is a privilege and a pain at the same time," it is VASTLY more a privilege than a pain. People in the queer community need to advocate for their very right to marry who they want in most states. This isn't a problem that bi-sexuals partnered with cis partners in monogamous relationships face. I understand your concern with not feeling like the queer community is terribly interested in your perspective and I have to say it is probably most analogous to the awkwardness male feminists face (after all, there are some extreme feminists who argue that men cannot by definition be feminists).
I do disagree with you about one thing. When you say, "Bisexual invisibility is a very tricky issue, because it is a privilege and a pain at the same time," it is VASTLY more a privilege than a pain. People in the queer community need to advocate for their very right to marry who they want in most states. This isn't a problem that bi-sexuals partnered with cis partners in monogamous relationships face. I understand your concern with not feeling like the queer community is terribly interested in your perspective and I have to say it is probably most analogous to the awkwardness male feminists face (after all, there are some extreme feminists who argue that men cannot by definition be feminists).