You might be "focused on the act of spitting as a particularly loaded expression of men's disdain for non-complaint women," but you should probably simply focus on it as a particularly loaded expression of disdain. Read Deuteronomy 25:5-10: a woman is directed to spit in the face of a man not fulfilling his duty as a brother and brother-in-law. Spitting in the face, then, is an expression of disdain, regardless of gender (it's certainly spoken of negatively in Leviticus 15 and Job 30 as occurring between men). Further than that: spitting is an expression of disdain explicitly prescribed within the deuteronomic law as a demonstrative, public shaming act for women against men. Yet (as far as I could find) nowhere is spitting prescribed as an act for men against women. It's almost as if God doesn't encourage men to spit at women. I hope that's not too much of a surprise!
You might be "focused on the act of spitting as a particularly loaded expression of men's disdain for non-complaint women," but you should probably simply focus on it as a particularly loaded expression of disdain. Read Deuteronomy 25:5-10: a woman is directed to spit in the face of a man not fulfilling his duty as a brother and brother-in-law. Spitting in the face, then, is an expression of disdain, regardless of gender (it's certainly spoken of negatively in Leviticus 15 and Job 30 as occurring between men). Further than that: spitting is an expression of disdain explicitly prescribed within the deuteronomic law as a demonstrative, public shaming act for women against men. Yet (as far as I could find) nowhere is spitting prescribed as an act for men against women. It's almost as if God doesn't encourage men to spit at women. I hope that's not too much of a surprise!