I understand your concern about being simply a "fetish". I am a non-Jewish white male, and I feel an instant attraction to Jewish women. Most of my life I was unaware of this, but slowly discovered it as the common link between several women I've dated and been interested in. I believe it's not only their beauty, but also personality and intelligence. Being labeled as exotic is a good thing that many men find irresistible.
I understand your concern about being simply a "fetish". I am a non-Jewish white male, and I feel an instant attraction to Jewish women. Most of my life I was unaware of this, but slowly discovered it as the common link between several women I've dated and been interested in. I believe it's not only their beauty, but also personality and intelligence. Being labeled as exotic is a good thing that many men find irresistible.