"It makes sense for husband and wife to follow traditional, well-defined roles"

Talk about something I never expected to read on this blog. I had to read it twice to make sure I was reading it correctly. It is hard to know where to start with how wrong I think that statement is. Traditional roles would keep women at home, doing all the housework, responsible for all the childcare (with the possible exception of "just wait until your father gets home"-type discipline) and dependent on their husbands for economic security.

Thoughtless adherence to traditional, well-defined roles are why I get asked questions like "who does the guy stuff?" in my relationship. Some people just can't fathom how two women run a household.

Without stereotypical roles to base our behavior on, we split up the work based on who can do what and what needs to get done. She cooks, I clean to admittedly the extent our place gets cleaned, we both do laundry and we both deal with the litter box. We don't spend a lot of time hashing out who does what -- the real issue is finding the time and energy to do the things we think need to get done.

Who really benefits when we rely on traditional roles? I'm thinking... not women.

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