Toby talks about her childhood in Providence, Rhode Island, where she grew up as a second-generation immigrant in a moderately observant family.  She describes her awareness of gender as a child when she envisioned certain restrictions for her life based on her womanhood.  Toby tells an anecdote about changing gender dynamics at Camp Ramah when girls wanted to read the haftarah but weren't allowed to make blessings.  This was a turning point for Toby's awareness of gender inequalities in Judaism.  She met her husband in 1971.  They struggled to negotiate the level of observance in their household after getting married.  In the early '70s, she began attending Jewish feminist conferences, where she was inspired by hearing women read the Torah for the first time.  She describes getting involved with Ezrat Nashim, a Jewish women’s movement, and speaking to Conservative and Orthodox groups about Jewish women’s issues, where she occasionally encountered hostility.  Toby talks about her current involvement in a Conservative synagogue in New Jersey and the meaningful experience of reading Torah regularly.  While her husband doesn't regularly attend the same shul, he still supports her involvement.  She then talks about raising children with involvement in Modern Orthodox and more egalitarian communities.  Her oldest son became more observant and right-wing after a trip to Israel, but Toby describes feeling proud that he has maintained his feminist values within that context.  Finally, she reflects on her growing commitment to feminism across her lifetime, as she realized that she needed more than just marriage for personal fulfillment.